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eight ways to destress

there’s no doubt you probably feel stressed at LEAST 300 times a year. (okay, just me?) although i know stress is sometimes good for you, there are times when it’s necessary to give yourself a breath. i’m feeling pretty stressed myself (better now, but when does stress ever fully disappear?) and i’m sure you may be too. whether it’s from finals or holidays or SOMETHING, here are some ways you can destress:

clean your room

so i just came back from traveling and my room is a m e s s. your room should be a place you can relax and rewind, but for me it’s turning into something i’m worried about. and honestly, it’s probably making things worse. i remember marie kondo mentioned in THE LIFE CHANGING MAGIC OF TIDYING UP that people have urges to clean their room when they’re stressed. something about having your physical setting cluttered affecting your mental setting. mmmmmm sounds about right. CLEAN YO ROOM.

take care of yourself

and while you’re cleaning your room, you can also clean yourself. meaning: take a bath, do a face mask, paint your nails, experiment with makeup, get a massage, drink some water, try yoga … you get the idea. this always ALWAYS makes me feel better. if my mental self isn’t at its prime, at least my physical self is. never underestimate the importance of taking care of your body.

indulge in some pop culture

sometimes you just need to open netflix and chilllllll. seriously, chill in bed and watch that movie you’ve been wanting to (re?)watch. read the book you’ve been wanting to pick up. (unless that stresses you out. then obviously, DON’T.) shamelessly sing along to songs you love. (echm HIGH SCHOOL MUSICAL~~~) it’s really relaxing to get caught up on other people’s problems and forget about your own. :))))

take a walk

nature is your best friend; nature is my best friend; nature is everyone’s best friend. did you know I LOVE NATURE? and in all honesty, you probably do too. maybe it’s because i’m cooped up in a ballet studio hours on hours a day and hardly ever see the sun, but I LOVE NATURE. i’m sure many of you are stuck in a classroom or a work office missing the vital vitamin D. take a ten/fifteen/twenty/thirty/however-many minute walk and just breathe in the fresh air. can i get an “ahhhhhh”?

find something to color

adult coloring books are super trendy now. it’s probably because someone found out it combats stress and all the adults were like, “i’M A STRESSED HUMAN WHO NEEDS THIS.” pull out those colored pencils or crayons or markers and get coloring because apparently, it’s very relaxing. (haven’t tried it myself yet but…) if you don’t have a coloring book on hand, i know there are many apps you can download that do the trick. (i’ve tried this and it is THE BEST.)

make a list. any list!

hey! look at me! i’m a stressed human who is making this list and it’s making me feel soooooo much better in all honesty. i haven’t blogged “properly” in like five months but here i am, making this list, not completely falling apart. if i can do it, you can too. here are some prompts:

  • things that made you happy today
  • compliments you can give to others
  • things you’re grateful for
  • experiences you enjoyed this year
  • your favorite books/films/songs
  • hobbies you want to try
  • languages/subjects you want to learn
  • places you want to go
  • … and so many more!!

light a candle

there is a candle next to me as i type and i promise you, this makes a huge difference for my personal wellbeing. i swear it’s not because i’ve been kinda obsessed with candles lately. candles are great because 1) they smell good, 2) they provide light to your dark soul room, 3) they flicker this way and that which makes it interesting to watch, 4) did i mention they smell good? candles are great.

take a digital detox

wanna know what’s great? the internet. wanna know what else is great? stepping away from the internet. although i love love love my phone/laptop, i do feel that it can be a soul-sucking vortex. one minute you’re feeling great about your life and the next you’re upset because timmy turner got the book you wanted and wanda has perfect hair and cosmo’s food just looks SO GOOD. life on the interwebs can be misleading and negative, and sometimes you gotta TAKE A BREAK. even if you’re not on the internet, yout devices can still be soul-sucking. i challenge you to go a day (three days? a week?) without ANY usage of anything with a screen (i.e. phone, laptop, T.V., etc.). may the odds be ever in your favor, my friend!

what are some things you do to destress? let me know in the comments!

six ways to make today your best day // a week of mondays blog tour

six ways to make today your best day

we all have good and bad days, but what exactly makes a day the best or worst in your life? one’s “best” and “worst” days can often change based on perspective and experiences. it also changes from person to person; my best day probably won’t be your best day and vice versa. although these tips won’t guarantee it’ll be the best day ever, there are a lot of ways it could make your days better.

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expect less

one of the key elements to ruining your day is disappointment. if you expect the day to be perfect, you’ll be disappointed in every aspect it isn’t. small things that previously wouldn’t have bothered you that much are now dampening your mood and suddenly you can’t wait for the day to be over. don’t expect too much.

… but be hopeful

being hopeful and being expectant are two very different things that may be easily confused. hopefulness stresses the possibility of good things while expectations demand good/certain things. keep a positive outlook on the day and hope for something good – even if it’s something small or it’s already the end of a long day. you never know what could occur!

small surprises

small surprises are one of the easiest ways to improve my mood, but they’re also not in my control. when i get an unexpected package or letter, my outlook on the day is usually 100x better. the same can be said if the weather is (surprisingly) wonderful, or if i take a (surprisingly) good ballet class, or if i (surprisingly) have some extra time to read. although surprises aren’t something you can predict, you will probably have a more positive view if you weren’t expecting anything and/or were hopeful.

be aware of possibilities – good and bad

although it’s good to be positive, know that not every day will be the best day. you could get that dream job you were striving for… but you could also lose that dream job. it’s okay and completely normal to have some days worse than others, but as sarah j. maas beautifully said in A COURT OF MIST AND FURY: “There are good days and hard days for me—even now. Don’t let the hard days win.”

don’t strive for perfection

this is probably the most important tip of all because there is no way your day is perfect. of course, there are many many ways to contribute in your so-called perfect day but i doubt it’d be a perfect day if you knew it was going to be “perfect;” i doubt everything went according to your plan, and even if it did, i think it’d be a little boring. all of my better days are ones i didn’t plan to be perfect or good. expect the unexpected and go with the flow.

acknowledge the little things

there was a time when i’d make a list of five things that made me smile that day. the list would be something like:

  1. a stranger opened the door for me.
  2. i had a delicious breakfast.
  3. i completed most of my daily goals.
  4. i saw an old friend i haven’t seen in a while.
  5. someone gave me a compliment.

none of these are really extravagant things, but simply taking the time to acknowledge the little details can change your definition on a “good” or “bad” day.

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ten ways to make your day better

ten ways to make your day better

we all have bad days. there are days when you’re frustrated and angry (and maybe for no particular reason), days when you have no motivation to do anything, days when you feel as if you’re on the verge of tipping over. these days exist for all of us. so what do we do? (because screaming and glaring at everyone who looks in your direction doesn’t work) we try to make it better. SO, here are ten ways you could make your day slightly more bearable.

listen to your favorite songs, old or new

whether you’re feeling nostalgic for backstreet boys or ready to jam to hamilton, listen to music. turn it up and sing along to the lyrics you know. throw a spontaneous emergency dance party.

catch up with friends, virtually or in real life

catching up with old friends (or family!) is always refreshing. you get to update your life to people who actually care, as opposed to the people who roll their eyes at your facebook statuses. it’s also nice to know how others are doing with their lives. you can do this by texting, calling, or actually meeting up with the person.

express gratitude

making a list of things/people/places you’re grateful for is really helpful in changing one’s perspective. even the simplest things like “the weather is nice today.” you could also make lists of things that made you happy that day (ex: i got an unexpected package) or your accomplishments (ex: i finished writing a blog post).

pamper yourself (take a bath/long shower/face mask/whatever)

this is so effective because it relaxes your mind and body. sometimes taking a long shower after a long day is exactly what i need. i stop worrying about the things that worry me and begin to relax relax relax.

re-watch your favorite movie(s) or catch up on tv shows

ahhh netflix, the cure for all. it’s wonderfully distracting to sit back and watch a film because you can stop worrying about your own issues and start worrying about the character’s issues. and 9/10 of the time, everything works out fine.

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the balancing act – a guide on time management

time management

if there’s something you should know about me, it’s that i want to do everything. i want to be a professional ballet dancer (which is time-consuming) but i’m also still working on school (which is time-consuming) and i also love reading (which is time-consuming) and blogging (which is time-consuming. unfortunately, the lack of hours in a day doesn’t make managing all these interests an easy feat. i’m actually awful at managing my time, but here are tips i’ve caught on to make my life SOMEWHAT manageable.

be aware of time

this is something i still struggle with. there are still days when i lay in bed for a few hours and do literally nothing. suddenly the day is half gone and all the productive things i planned are out the door and i begin to feel like the upside-down-smiling-emoji. this is something that can happen really easily especially since i go to an online school. it’s bad. be aware of the passing of time! it’s so easy to get distracted by your phone or a book and hours (literally hours!) could pass by simply scrolling through instagram/twitter/whatever. some productivity apps like forest can be helpful for situations like this.

prioritize

as much as i want to blog or read or simply ~chill~, things need to be finished. i need to study and turn in my assignments. i need to rehearse my solos and stretch. i need to take care of myself and sleep. there are simply things that NEED to be done; know those things. on the flip side, it’s also important to make time for your interests and relax.

set time aside for the “less important” stuff

it’s a given that school and work will always hold the winning hand over books and blogging (unless books/blogging become my full-time job, i will have to admit this unfortunate fact). i recently started planning my blogging/bookstagram schedule weekly. for bookstagram, i’d write out all the photos i hope to take, plan the way it’d look, and keep them in my phone until the day i intended on posting it. this way i wouldn’t need to stress about not having consistent photos or new content or whatever. as for blogging… i’m still working on it. but i HOPE to simply write it all at the beginning of the week and schedule it for the next few days. you could also schedule in your reading, but i have an entire post on how to read when you’re busy.

plan your weeks and days out

this is the part where i say MY BULLET JOURNAL SAVED ME. since i have a very flexible schedule, it’s easy for me to get sidetracked with ~all the things~. did i make sure to ship all the orders? reply to those emails? draft my review? stretch my feet? submit the assignment? take out the trash? cook my meals?? if i didn’t write and plan everything out, i’d get nothing done. my bullet journal post is so outdated that i feel that i need to share another update soon. but regardless of what type of organizer you use, planning your day (with specific time slots or with specific tasks) is an easy way to make sure you’re being productive.

do you have any tips for being better with time management and improving productivity? let me know in the comments!

HOW TO START A BLOG

how to start a blog

i’ve gotten asked this question (how do i start a blog?) numerous times and in many different ways (emails, tumblr asks, etc), so i thought it’d be best if create a blog post to direct people to. (i’ve been meaning to write this post for ages.) i’m actually not the most qualified person to ask, but OH WELL. but anyway, here’s my guide to starting a blog. (WELCOME TO THE DARK SIDE.)

step one: decide what you want to blog about.

before you begin, you should know what it is you want to blog about. it’s fine to have random posts about life and fashion and books and fitness and BASICALLY EVERYTHING, but it’d also very messy. you probably wouldn’t have many readers because not everyone is interested in everything you’re interested in. you would also feel confused about your content because you have no clear focus. for me, i’m blogging about literature and life.

step two: choose a blogging platform

when making this choice, you must figure out where you want to go with your blog. do you intend to SERIOUSLY blog for at least a few years? is it just something where you want to drop by every so often with a few posts? are you not sure where this is going? here are some popular blogging platforms people usually use. you should look into the pros and cons of each when deciding which one to use. you should make this decision based on what you need, so think carefully!

  • wordpress self-hosted (more for serious bloggers, more freedom, but paying monthly)
  • wordpress.com (limited flexibility, but easier to switch to wp self-hosted in the future)
  • blogger (customizable theme, but i’ve never tried it personally)
  • tumblr (tumblr blogging is different from blogging blogging)
  • squarespace (no idea)
  • weebly (no idea, either)

step three: name your blog

i’ve gotten asked a few times on how to choose a blog name. it’s actually a fairly time-consuming and difficult process to find the ~perfect name~. (in fact, i think i could dedicate an entire blog post on this topic, but i’m just going to condense it.) choosing a blog name is kind of like choosing your own name, so choose wisely. most of the time, people in the blogging community will probably know your blog name before your blog. in a way, you’re signing a contract with this name and there’s no going back. of course, you can change your name, but it wouldn’t recommend changing your name every other week – especially when you’re just starting out.

things to consider when thinking of a blog name:

  • don’t make it too long; one to three words is good.
  • try to make it memorable; generic names are not the best (ex: booklover101)
  • make sure no one else has the name!
  • try to incorporate what it is you’re blogging about (ex: twirling PAGES because i book blog)
  • you can also incorporate something personal (ex: TWIRLING pages since i also dance ballet)
  • create a list of related words and mix & match for ideas
  • or think of popular says and recreate them your own way
  • any type of word play usually makes the name stand out more.
  • avoid too many symbols or numbers (ex: bookworm1234567890 is not ideal)
  • write all possible blog name ideas down! you could change/combine some ideas together in the future.

step four: make it happen!

this is when you go out and MAKE YOUR BLOG. you’ve decided on all the things you need to decide on; you know what you’re doing, so just do it! in this process, you’ll also choose (or make) a blog theme, but that really depends on what platform you choose, how flexible it is, etc., so i’m not going to go into detail about that. make your blog, write your first post, add pictures, click publish, and TA-DA! you have a blog.

step five: connect with others

i’d start off by creating a new email account with your blog name. it’s easier to categorize things (like all your blogging stuff is in one place) and it’s more professional and convenient when you contact companies in the future. (even if you don’t plan on contacting them, it’s safe to have because… you never know.) after that, you can go out and make new social media accounts under your name and blog name. even if you’re comfortable with sharing your blog with your IRL friends, i still find it better to having separate accounts. your blog is also a brand, so it’s better not to mix up the promo posts (CHECK OUT MY LATEST BLOG POST!) with the personal ones (my dog is so adorable!). however, you can still feel free to share personal stuff on your blog’s social media. the difference with this is that your followers are also expecting “promo posts” as to your IRL friends on the personal account that might find you “spammy.” the audience is different. my favorite blogging social medias are twitter, instagram, and tumblr! but i know others use facebook and pinterest as well. aside from social media, visit other blogs who are talking about the same/similar topics as you. comment on those posts (people LOVE comments) and get your blog out there.

i hope this post was helpful for those who are thinking about joining the bandwagon! for those who are already blogging, when did you start your blog? let me know in the comments!